Henry was attracted to Catherine, who had been living a difficult and
depressing life, from the time of her widowhood, and he probably regarded
himself as a gallant, rescuing his lady from the problems of her poverty and being all but
kept a prisoner by Henry VII. When his father
died in 1509, he wanted to marry her. The
Pope had given a dispensation covering the possibility that the marriage to
Arthur had been consummated, and allowing a marriage to her former brother in
law.
The young couple had a lot in common.
Henry VIII had been under his father’s thumb and had become King at the
age of 18, and he was now free to do what he wanted and enjoy himself. He shared Catherine’s interests in music and
literature and theology… and they seemed to enjoy each other’s company.
The couple were married and crowned, and were very popular with the ordinary
people. Henry was a fine handsome young man
who was flamboyant and free spending unlike his miserly father. Catherine was still young and attractive and
the English people felt sorry for her and loved her. Within a year of her marriage she had her
first child but it was a stillborn daughter.
Then she had another pregnancy, which ended in the birth of a son, but
the boy died at the age of 6 weeks. It
was far from uncommon to lose children so the couple were not too discouraged. She had 2 more stillborn children but then in
1516, gave birth to a daughter. Henry
was relieved to have a child who survived…but he hoped that a son would
follow. The baby was called Mary. As the daughter of a reigning Queen,
Catherine did not feel that women were incapable of ruling. She wished to ensure that her daughter had a
good education to prepare her for the possibility of becoming Queen.
She herself acted as Regent when Henry was away at war. She was well liked by the people – However, the
English people had only had one Queen regnant, Mathilda or Maud... who had been
involved in a bitter civil war with a rival claimant… so that their memory of
having a queen ruling them was not a happy one.
Catherine became more religious as she grew older, praying intensely,
and doing penances. This began to create
some distance between her and Henry. He
was a devout man but he was almost 6 years Catherine’s junior. He had never had much of a period of bachelor
freedom and he wanted to enjoy life, so a wife who was increasingly serious,
may have seemed difficult for him to understand. Unlike many Princes and Kings; he was in love
with his wife and was by and large faithful to her. He had an affair with a lady in waiting, Elizabeth
Blount, who became his mistress in 1516 and gave birth to a son, Henry Fitzroy
in 1519. He may have had a few other brief
affairs but there are only 2 women of whom we can be certain that there was a relationship. Catherine was frequently pregnant during
their first years of marriage. This meant
that Henry might well look elsewhere for sex for a time... But there does not seem
to have been a serious rift between him and his wife, nor do we have more than
2 named women.
After Mary’s birth Catherine had 2 more pregnancies but she was growing
older and her chance of producing a male heir were slipping away. She had a miscarriage, and a daughter who
died at birth.
Henry must have been disappointed.
His wife was aging and less attractive and she was more absorbed in religious
duties. He had no male heir.. But he had proved that he could father a son with
Elizabeth Blount.
He started an affair with Mary Boleyn, who had come from the French court
and seems to have been the mistress of Francis I. In 1520 Mary was married to William
Carey, a courtier, and this was probably a cover for her affair with Henry….She
had 2 children but it seems likely that they were born after her affair with
Henry, and when she and her husband started marital relations.
Although Henry was not a particularly promiscuous husband, the age difference
and the lack of a male heir began to damage the fabric of his marriage to
Catherine.